tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post3376081800853864924..comments2023-07-24T08:28:37.113-07:00Comments on WEATHERING THE STORM: The End of a Sagaphotos by janhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-41317221973258464672011-09-22T19:17:32.140-07:002011-09-22T19:17:32.140-07:00@ Kriti, Thank you for the encouragement. I don no...@ Kriti, Thank you for the encouragement. I don not feel very brave right now. I am trying the chin up thing.<br /><br />@ Sancheeta, thank you so much.<br /><br />@ Pat: I know Pat, it is all just so very sad, not just for my son, but for all the other addicts out their and their parents and siblings. It is difficult to say the least to grieve for a living child.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-21079493608495785012011-09-22T19:11:21.103-07:002011-09-22T19:11:21.103-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-63881242310941863992011-09-22T15:21:46.541-07:002011-09-22T15:21:46.541-07:00Jan, my heart goes out to you. Tough love is so di...Jan, my heart goes out to you. Tough love is so difficult and sometimes what it takes for an addict to hit bottom rather than dying from his addiction.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-32528916681947908412011-09-22T05:05:14.808-07:002011-09-22T05:05:14.808-07:00Jan - I am so sorry to read this! I can only imagi...Jan - I am so sorry to read this! I can only imagine the pain you must be going through... But give yourself credit - by letting him go you have done the bravest thing a mother can do. He will learn when he doesn't have you and his father to cushion his falls. Chin up now and smile knowing everything will fall in place... Loadsa loveKritihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06827714509776261027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-18906373562212271392011-09-22T04:46:59.183-07:002011-09-22T04:46:59.183-07:00read your story. just can say you are a brave moth...read your story. just can say you are a brave mother. we all support your decision. never stop loving but never stop protesting against the wrong. a mother is the best teacher of misbehaved child even he is grown up. wish that everything changes and your son turns out to be a good learner of life.<br /><br />lots of love and hugs.sancheeta biswashttp://anshsaransh.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-12263024605971912332011-09-21T21:43:17.172-07:002011-09-21T21:43:17.172-07:00Thank you Adriene, I appreciate the support and hu...Thank you Adriene, I appreciate the support and hugs. I will be okay, just takes some time.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-49641653905957426622011-09-21T17:38:13.562-07:002011-09-21T17:38:13.562-07:00I'm really sorry, Jan. As a mother of adult ch...I'm really sorry, Jan. As a mother of adult children, I can attest that the hardest thing is to let go and allow them to live their own lives, right or wrong. His life will turn around only if he wants it to, and in the mean time, you have to take care of yourself and those you are responsible for. Hugs to you, and stay strong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-78141485820537609862011-09-21T16:55:02.724-07:002011-09-21T16:55:02.724-07:00Thank you so much Steve, I am so tired that I almo...Thank you so much Steve, I am so tired that I almost gave up trying to take care of me. Your words truly make sense to me and are very helpful. Thank you again.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-78065204082037111142011-09-21T14:28:54.878-07:002011-09-21T14:28:54.878-07:00Jan, It does and will hurt like hell but it doesn&...Jan, It does and will hurt like hell but it doesn't have to destroy you. I am so sorry you're going through this. Something that has helped to keep my sanity in dealing with terribly poor choices several of my kids have made is keeping the following perspective: early in life our kids are, indeed, victims. But at some point they move from being a victim to being a volunteer. I'll take responsibility for and own my sins of commission and omission in those early years. But I will not take responsibility for the choices they make now as volunteers. Grace and peace to you.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14737973262005167895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-59157676721986114292011-09-21T11:57:46.134-07:002011-09-21T11:57:46.134-07:00This has made me cry a bit. So sad that the two of...This has made me cry a bit. So sad that the two of us have to run parallel in this too! Your are right we are growing and changing our way of thinking. I pray I see an abuser coming before I let them in. Love to you as well Beck. <3photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-33912160960904256932011-09-21T10:39:26.029-07:002011-09-21T10:39:26.029-07:00I'm sorry Jan, and I'm so proud of you. Yo...I'm sorry Jan, and I'm so proud of you. You know I just did the same with Patrick. We're growing. Maybe the last of our abusers.<br /> Much love, BeckAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-34589841851371377602011-09-21T08:43:19.937-07:002011-09-21T08:43:19.937-07:00@ Sulekka,Thank you for the support and encouragem...@ Sulekka,Thank you for the support and encouragement.<br /><br />@ Anna, You are so right,I thank you for the kind words of encouragement.<br /><br />@ Sparklemezen, I have been in this battle for seems like a lifetime, I have 4 other kids, this one just was so different from the very beginning, he left me drained. Thank you for your encouragement and support.<br />@ Corrine, Thank you for the support and love and hugs.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-3821801959452376182011-09-21T07:18:26.847-07:002011-09-21T07:18:26.847-07:00Jan - Offering you love, support and many hugs...Y...Jan - Offering you love, support and many hugs...You did the right thing for your family...Corinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00127426375705808776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-88078276515130091912011-09-21T07:02:36.015-07:002011-09-21T07:02:36.015-07:00Jan what you are going through is very hard... I h...Jan what you are going through is very hard... I have 2 very close friends who are going through the same situation... One had stopped accepting the guilt and gifted the child the responsibility and now that child is 26... married with 2 kids and working and very happy... He helps other kids as well...<br />The other well is not ready to hand over the responsibility yet....<br />So Jan what you have done is courageous.... not easy at all...<br />You will find your guidance and that will help you through...<br />Take careAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-49622016531879890252011-09-21T06:24:13.841-07:002011-09-21T06:24:13.841-07:00We should try and live in the moment , as no one a...We should try and live in the moment , as no one assures us of a tommorrow, and we should not allow anybody to threaten or intimidate us in any way , I feel for you so much that it is hard to put into words , I pray that life for you all involved will improve sending much love out to you ... <3 XoXoXo Anna RomanoAnna Romanohttp://methodmum.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-76765575876811889082011-09-21T02:22:09.719-07:002011-09-21T02:22:09.719-07:00Be strong, you have done the right thing.Take one ...Be strong, you have done the right thing.Take one day at a time and things will improve..god blesssulekkhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06022718430683943561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-4144909205891121492011-09-21T01:44:43.937-07:002011-09-21T01:44:43.937-07:00I feel as though I have been stabbed in the heart....I feel as though I have been stabbed in the heart.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-63728735922340697862011-09-21T01:44:17.028-07:002011-09-21T01:44:17.028-07:00Jim, Thank you so much, it is difficult, it helps ...Jim, Thank you so much, it is difficult, it helps to know I am not alone. Your words mean a lot to me. <3<br /><br />Janu, I appreciate the encouragement, thank you for the love and hugs.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-83676051679513888022011-09-21T00:25:27.021-07:002011-09-21T00:25:27.021-07:00You have done the best any mother can do to her so...You have done the best any mother can do to her son.....Love and hugs...be strong.JANUhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06983287092498427967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-47469900830721711182011-09-21T00:17:02.119-07:002011-09-21T00:17:02.119-07:00Thank you Alpana, <3Thank you Alpana, <3photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-83081897953166946222011-09-21T00:15:29.843-07:002011-09-21T00:15:29.843-07:00Got a relation going through similar with their so...Got a relation going through similar with their son, same age.<br />You, your extended family, your friends all have to support you now so you can remain strong and say no to your son. It's good to see they are.<br /> No more will you accept his threats, his drinking and drug abuse, no more will you accept the guilt, no more will you fix his problems. <br /><br /> <br />He has to take responsibility for his actions.<br />You're there to love him, not to give him his every need.<br />Be strong.<br /> Best,<br /> JimJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07618511960243841803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-45870203572072237882011-09-21T00:06:07.372-07:002011-09-21T00:06:07.372-07:00Happiness needs sadness.
Success needs failure.
Be...Happiness needs sadness.<br />Success needs failure.<br />Benevolence needs evil.<br />Love needs hatred.<br />Victory needs defeat.<br />Pleasure needs pain.<br />You have experienced and accepted the extremes...God bless u,and I wish u the very best always.Alpana Jaiswalhttp://www.motifsonthewall.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-81258694593934401172011-09-20T23:46:13.257-07:002011-09-20T23:46:13.257-07:00Thank you, grief is a tough go, but I will make it...Thank you, grief is a tough go, but I will make it.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85496489102823240.post-55907657058618552352011-09-20T23:44:02.805-07:002011-09-20T23:44:02.805-07:00This is so moving. At one point people have to cla...This is so moving. At one point people have to claim responsibility for their own lives and stop blaming parents, upbringing, circumstances etc. I am glad you have closed the chapter on guilt. All the best with your life.OtienoHongohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07116301778217920666noreply@blogger.com