Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Shopping for Henry
I went shopping for Henry's birthday today. He turns 2 on Valentines Day, shopping was a melancholy visit with what should have been. Henry was born with Cerebral Palsy due to a blood clot in his umbilical cord that developed during labor. He was born through an emergency C section, I was there with Reb. It was traumatic and horrifying, I had been through several birthing experiences including all but one of my grandkids. Henry was the color of old modeling clay and deathly still. He was dead. The doctors with all their powers brought him back,but not before I passed out. No one told Reb what was going on she was panicking; I was at a loss to help. Noah was in the other room having a panic attack not being able to be with his child or his love. I tried to help in my more than inept way, I had no clue. Much has happened in the last 2 years with them their beautiful children and in my life as well. I have 2 more grandson's who are healthy and happy one of which is theirs. Lewis is a little scoundrel , usually smiling eating or getting into something.
I am very divided I desire to spend all my time loving on Henry , helping Reb and Noah to cope, I don't want to get in the way. I spend a blessed amount of time with all the grans and love every minute of it. Henry is special, he can not do a lot of things, the one thing he can do is hear. When he hears Papa Randy's voice it is instant smile. Most pictures I get of him smiling are because of Papa. With the love you have for any child comes the fear and despair. I have been through many minor crisis with each and every one of my own children and several of my grandkids. Nothing that comes close to the daily heartbreak we each have to look at with Henry.
Anger, anguish, tears, saddened laughter, the coulda beens and shoulda beens. It is there every single day. I cry for my daughter, a woman who has beat so many odds to be where she is, I cry for Noah, a man that I have come to love with the devotion of a mother, Their other 3 children and the lessons on life they are having to learn way to early.
In my desire to not neglect the other children in my life I have a tendency to over stretch a bit. That is so okay, I love to take care of my mother, we share many adventures together. I have learned so much from her and from my daughter in the last year.
Rebecca is soft, gentle, strong and persistent, a little hard on herself at times, but never never quits, loyal and truly truly caring of others. Noah is a bit more difficult to know, I know him as a man devoted to his family, loving ,caring and loyal he would not like the words but he is a lot of bluster to cover his sensitivities. I could not have more respect for the two of them and the road they have already been down with Henry. Henry is the spark that lights our world.